"Precept must be upon precept, precept upon precept, line upon line, line upon line, here a little and there a little." Isaiah 28:10
"Precept must be upon precept, precept upon precept, line upon line, line upon line, here a little and there a little." Isaiah 28:10
Recently my daughter was caught up in ‘trauma-drama’ with some of her friends and felt caught between two friends. I think we’ve each been there whether with family members, friends, or organisation we’re involved with. Something is said, a different thing understood, and the accusations and hurts seem to feed on each other, with the human picture spiralling downwards into more and more nastiness.
Much time was spent by her ruminating on the situation, what she should or should not say or do. Various friends offered a wide range of advice. It was apparent though that this had become a false god- taking thought away from the good each of these people expressed and the fun activity from which the misunderstanding had developed. I prayed silently to know what to say or not say.
During a quiet moment, I suggested to her that fundamentally she was at a crossroad and had a choice to make. She could jump into the ‘trauma-drama’ with both feet, engage with it and hope it worked out, or she could take the higher road, and engage with the qualities expressed by these two people- those qualities which had encouraged her to become friends with them in the first place. In other words, she could simply refuse to give any air time to anything that was unlike the person God had created.
She decided that she did want to take the higher road, and refuse to get into the mire. Meanwhile, one of the friends spent several days and nights weeping over the situation, refused to be consoled and shared her feelings of injustice with anyone willing to listen including everyone at a Prom event. In spite of this seeming drama, I continued to pray knowing that the good of friendship and the fun activity could not be turned into sorrow. Also, the idea came very clearly that ‘It is a spiritual idea that lights your path”, from Mrs Eddy’s piece on “Angels”. The way forward would be very clear to each person involved, including my daughter. Soon, I could see that the turmoil had left her, and she was at peace.
On several occasions, friends within the wider group tried to draw her into a conversation about the situation. She calmly replied by saying that she was friends with both of them, and therefore did not want to
discuss it, and changed the subject. This calmness and poise was clearly from God, not born out of human willpower. Each time the situation or any of the people came to thought, I immediately claimed that the way forward was lit by God’s angels, light and comfort in a way that would comfort and guide each person in the way they needed.
Within a few days, one of the friends calmly apologised to my daughter for having ever brought her into the situation, asked that the whole thing be put behind them and forgotten. In the midst of the drama, this had seemed an impossible outcome. The other friend and my daughter’s friendship returned to normal, and it was as if it had never happened.
I am very grateful, especially as a mother, to know that every moment each of us is guided and comforted by God and God’s angels, regardless of whatever trauma-drama may try to suggest otherwise. By sticking firmly with the truth that each person is being guided and comforted by God, and certainly not through me as a human mother, I can be confident that Love will be known and felt by all.